Sexual Harrassment - Blog Posts

notes-to-society

6 years ago

Note To Society #21

You don’t owe anyone sex. No one owes you sex. Just because someone likes you doesn’t mean you need to have sex with them if you aren’t comfortable with it. Same goes for dating. You can’t force anyone into dating you, or participating in sexual interactions, just because you feel entitled to it. Sex and relationships are mutual agreements made both BOTH parties, and any differing decisions should be respected.

Note To Society #5

Sex workers are just as deserving of respect as anyone else, regardless of their occupation. And they are no more deserving of rape and harassment as anyone else.

brown skinned boy

also another commentary on the colorism and dualism in fujoshi culture. Like they need a darker melanated male to play the masculine that's all that matters. Who that is does not matter. Whatever they are going through doesn't matter. Finding out the roughest years in kji's life is when he was shipped the heaviest say everything. A masculine dark skinned athletic male in fandom circles gets passed around continuously in shipping. CONTINUOUSLY and like no. And then if one member says something colorist or rude or is just plain mean due to either people being weird, trying to make a joke or whatever, it's laughed off and normalized. It's bad enough it happens in korea. To the extent I really don't believe people understand, like it's really bad, worse than pann comments on koreaboo let on. It's inhumane the socially acceptable comments dark skinned koreans get, the treatment. The cameras show only a fraction. Then after all that poor treatment s.m changed his makeup and styling and now he's getting dehumanized via his proximity to femininity, and his body is being objectified like ten times more. It's on the same level people talk about female s symbols and they get dogged out pretty bad. Cause now his skin is lighter and more appealing to the eurocentric eye. Like it's messed up. Seriously. It's okay to say someone looks good but you'd think there'd be a little respect to go along with that for people who allegedly care about human rights and women's issues so much. It reeks of internalized misogyny. The rude comments about his body and his effeminate behavior. Also I'm not pro pity, but maybe if people see this is a problem maybe they can reflect. Nobody wants to live in a boring world, but there is levels to how terrible people can be to one another. I hope in the future we can be better and do better for one another.